Ten Rules for Caregivers

• Choose to maintain charge of own your life. Don't let your loved one's illness or disability always take center stage.
  
  
• Educate yourself about your loved one's condition. Information is empowering.
  
  
• Trust your instincts. Most of the time they'll lead you in the right direction.
  
  
• Remember to be good to yourself. Love, honor and value yourself. You're doing a very hard job and you deserve some quality time, just for you.
  
  
• Watch out for signs of depression, and don't delay in getting professional help when you need it.
  
  
• When people offer to help, accept the offer. Suggest specific things that they can do.
  
  
• There's a difference between caring and doing. Be open to technologies and ideas that promote your loved one's independence.
  
  
• Grieve for your losses, and then allow yourself to dream new dreams.
  
  
• Stand up for your rights as a caregiver and a citizen, especially when dealing with public agencies.
  
  
• Seek support from other caregivers. There is great strength in knowing you are not alone.